Trust in the digital age

I’ve not been blogging for over a year now and it’s not for lack of desire…I’ve just been seriously busy and blogging has fallen down my priority of things to get done. Elderly parent comes first, as a family we moved to San Diego a year ago and settling in here came second, work came third and blogging came after that…

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Conversational Intelligence

I’m currently following Judith E. Glaser’s online course on Conversational Intelligence. I firmly believe that you can never get enough learning about any form of intelligence if you are in the people business. As coaches we need to understand all elements of our clients behaviour and be able to ask the elegant and/or challenging questions that bring awareness of themselves and how others see and react to them.

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Ask more questions

When we are children we ask tens of thousands of questions. A young child asks over 450 questions a day. We ask for facts initially…e.g…what is this? As we grow older we start to ask why? We ask why and why and why incessantly as children. Parents get driven mad by their children’s continual search for explanations about everything.

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Mind over Matter

How much does it matter to you for your mind to be as fit and well as possible? My friend Keiron runs a cognitive testing and development business(MyCognition) where, for a few pounds, you can get your cognitive strengths tested. I came out with an overall strength of 68%, which I was appalled with, until Keiron told me the average is 60%! Since then I’ve been undertaking ways to increase the wellness of my mind.

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Conversation -are we losing it?

Conversation is our World’s last free natural resource – are we losing it?

I’m not given to blowing things out of proportion. Well, at least I think I’m not. What do you think? To find out I have to ask you and we would start a conversation. The outcome would be unclear at the start and we would explore the subject by asking questions and listening to the answers in real time and then responding. Yes – I know that’s a strange concept but it does seem to work quite well when the people concerned understand the rules of conversation. Sadly most of us seem to have forgotten them.

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Happiness day – do we need 1 or 365?

Each year in March we have Happiness Day. It makes me wonder – why just one day? I have met a number of wonderful individuals who seem to have decided that they are going to have a happiness life, not just a day. They make you want to be around them because their happiness is contagious! Did they practise to be that way? Is it a conscious decision made every morning, or is it effortless? On the other hand – Happiness Day … a whole day? That’s quite a lot of pressure really. What if I’m tired, or have an argument with someone, can I try again tomorrow?

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Mindfulness

treefacesIn today’s hectic environment where we all appear to be time starved, our thoughts tend to centre on things that have happened or things that are going to happen. We are so busy that we only glance at life as it passes us by while we live in the past or the future.

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Why Why?

Why is why the question we need to ask ourselves before we know why our why is our why? What if that’s a silly question? Is it a silly question? What drives us to have a why and why does it drive us? Why do we have whys? What’s behind our driving passion? What’s behind our reason to exist? Do we need a reason to exist? Is existing enough of a reason? What do we get from having a driving reason? Why might a driving reason be essential for a happy, healthy life? What if that’s not true?

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The Secret Phrase Top Innovators Use

This is an article by Warren Berger, author of the new book “A More Beautiful Question”. This excerpt was posted in the Harvard Business Review  in September 2012. I believe that getting to the right question is prerequisite for growing conversations.

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